You’re not alone. I’m here to help you find peace and move forward one step at a time.
Modern and effective therapy tailored for gay men 50 and better.
The compassionate support you deserve!
San Diego office and Online in California.
Bob Basque, LCSW
Modern, effective therapy for gay men 50 and better in San Diego.
Something doesn't feel right; a quiet but constant unease lingers. And, you think it might be time to get some help with the problem.
As a gay man aged 50 or better, you might expect that by now, you’d have your life neatly arranged—the pieces fitting together harmoniously. Yet, deep down, things just don’t feel right.
You need to be able to talk — not just talk, but be open — and share what's truly happening with someone who understands, in a private, confidential space.
Your friends are great, but sometimes you might feel like a new, unbiased perspective could really help.
You might notice depression or anxiety creeping into your thoughts. It can feel as though the ghosts of your past—memories and struggles you thought had faded—are returning.
Maybe you're facing some new challenges lately — questions like, 'Who am I now that I’m retired?' or feelings that life has flown by so quickly. It’s natural to wonder who you are as you grow older.
You might be relying on alcohol or other substances more than what's healthy, and you secretly recognize that it's time to change direction.
Maybe your relationship is experiencing issues, and you could use some guidance to sort things out.
I am Bob Basque, LCSW, and I use modern, effective methods that have helped many people find their way again.
Let’s work together to get you back on the right path!
"Healing is not an act of weakness; it is the ultimate act of rebellion against a world that tried to break you."
~S.A. Wheeler
Gay men over 50 face some unique challenges as they age, especially when it comes to mental health.
In my work with our community, I help many men dealing with issues like these:
Depression and Anxiety: Gay men are more likely than straight men to experience anxiety and depression.
Chronic Illness and Disability: Some gay men living with HIV/AIDS never expected to grow older, and now they are facing a range of health problems.
Life-changing or life-threatening medical diagnosis: A new major medical diagnosis can be overwhelming. Being diagnosed with cancer, heart disease, Alzheimer's, liver disease, or another serious condition can be very difficult. Gay men may face unique challenges and concerns about discrimination. Having a warm, safe space to discuss worries and emotions is essential.
Substance Use: Older gay men are more likely to use alcohol and drugs, often to cope with stress or loneliness.
Gay Ageism: Many older gay men struggle in a culture that values youth, which can leave them feeling invisible, less important, or unwanted.
Isolation and Loneliness: Older gay men are more likely to live alone and may not have strong support networks. Many do not have children, or their family relationships are distant.
Historical Trauma (HIV/AIDS): Many men in this generation lived through the AIDS epidemic. They carry deep grief and trauma from losing friends and partners, and from surviving such a hard time.
LGBTQ Stress and Discrimination: Dealing with homophobia over a lifetime causes ongoing stress. This can lead to anxiety, worry, and sometimes feeling the need to hide who you are in health care settings.
I’m Bob Basque, and I believe counseling should be effective and leave you feeling supported and empowered.
I am a committed, encouraging, and sensible therapist who can help you get your life back on track. My practice is dedicated to helping gay men, 50 and better, with effective, compassionate therapy.
What makes me different is that I listen carefully and read between the lines, uncovering what might be happening beneath the surface. Together, we will figure it out.
Being a therapist is an honor. I love guiding people to figure things out and seeing them finally get their desired life back.
Counseling shouldn’t be confusing.
Here’s how we’ll work together:
STEP 1
Click the button below to share what’s happening in your life that has led you to seek counseling, and simply provide your contact information.
STEP 2
I will call you to have an informal chat, find out more, and answer any questions you might have.
STEP 3
Together, we’ll determine if working together is the right choice for you, and we can schedule your first session!
What Bob's fellow therapists say about him…
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“Clients sing Bob's praises; he is direct, empathetic, and knows his stuff!”
—Judy, Psychiatric Nurse Practitioner
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“Bob creates a safe and nurturing therapeutic environment with his wonderful blend of empathy, insight, and professionalism. You're in great hands!”
—Rusty, Family Therapist
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“Bob is very direct while still being understanding and kind. He knows how to get to the heart of the matter, and you can tell he really cares.”
—Erin, Psychologist
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“Bob is a brilliant therapist. He understands the clients’ experience well. Bob’s talents for facilitating solid therapeutic relationships with clients are nothing short of exceptional.”
—David, Psychotherapist